After the Ceremony: tips to keep your relationship strong

Open to more love

Love starts from within and affects all who you encounter. Try this for the next 30 seconds:

Put both hands on your chest.

Close your eyes.

Breathe slowly, feeling your heart energy warm your whole being and radiate outward.

Envision a big light shining out from your heart, filling your body and extending outward to the world.

Notice how you and your interactions feel today.

After the Ceremony: Tips to keep your relationship strong

Sensual moments matter!

There’s something sensual about whispering in your partner’s ear. Kiss your partner’s ear and whisper, “I love you” into their ear. It only takes a moment, but the bonding you initiate will last much longer!

After the Ceremony – tips to keep your relationship strong

30 seconds of self-reflection goes a long way!

Access and express some of your accumulated wisdom. Surprise! You’re wise!

Write your answers to: 3 things I’ve learned about how I like to receive love.

After the Ceremony – tips for keepin’ relationships strong

Love Goals

Couples can get closer when they have goals for the relationship.

Separately, write three things you would like to improve in your relationship. Then, share and discuss steps to meet these goals. It will help you understand your partner’s needs, and allow you to share yours too. Make an effort to work towards them now that you know.

After the Ceremony – strong marriage tips!

Just for Today

Make sure to say, “I love you” to your partner today.

Try texting, whispering, leaving a love note, or something even more creative! Expressing love each day helps keep the love flowing because your partner will feel appreciated and loved.

Meet Rev. Evan!

I’m happy to announce that my husband, Evan Langholt, is now licensed and available to offer Short & Sweet wedding ceremonies at locations in Maryland and Washington, DC!

If I’m already booked, or you wish to book a male officiant who is warm, and is expertly trained (by me!) to conduct your ceremony smoothly, now you can request Evan as your officiant.

Evan is a supporting officiant, available on evenings and weekends.

Contact us with questions or to request a Zoom meeting to meet Evan and decide if you’d like to book his services.

 

Quick Weddings are Sweet Moments

As the Justice of the Peace gets pretty booked up well in advance, I often get calls to officiate a quick signing of the wedding license for couples to “make it legal.” While that may sound kind of dry and impersonal, I like to add a romantic touch. After all, this IS a wedding, and the date of this legal process will become the couple’s anniversary date far into the future.

These quick weddings don’t usually involve wedding dresses, guests, and flowers. They don’t usually include family members.

We might meet in Panera Bread and talk together quietly at a table. We might meet in a nearby park if the weather is nice. We might meet at the couple’s house or apartment. I even met a couple for beers at Dogfish Head Ale House. (I ended up officiating a bigger ceremony for them about six months later too.)

But, I like to make it special. This is, after all, the moment that the couple transitions from single to married. It’s an important moment and I consider it an honor to make this possible for them. So here’s what I do:

I bring a little ceremony script. It’s really simple. It includes: a brief reading about the meaning of marriage, vows (this is a legal necessity), a ring exchange (if the couple is including rings), and pronouncing them married.

I bring the couple a copy of my book, A Moment for Us: Care for Busy Couples – 101 free ways for couples to enjoy more love, caring, and togetherness in 30 seconds. I sign it for them and date it.

We take a picture.

And of course, I sign their wedding license to make it legal.

Look at these happy faces.